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Friday, May 25, 2012

Are you tired of the Complaining and Bitching?

For anyone who does not want my open and honest words in today's post, click out and head somewhere else. You have been for warned.

I am getting lots of emails from people asking me things like, how are you still losing weight without your band, please share your secrets, what secret supplement am I taking, what do I eat each day, you all know these questions, I know you do.  You have all been asked them at least once.

I want to say this to each and every person out there who is NOT seeing the results that they would like to whether it be with a band or without one.  Please, do not take this as bashing you because I have been there when things were not going well.  I did however OWN UP and admit is was because of ME! Nothing else, no other excuse.

I did not get to my current mindset over night.  Those who know me, have watched my struggles and failures over the years.  This is hard work.  This is not a FAD diet.  This is not going to happen without effort from you.

I realized after having stomach surgery (be it 18 months afterwards), that I needed brain surgery.  That is right, having my stomach wrapped with a little white band, did not fix what was wrong in my head.  I would go to our support group meetings and listen to people who still were hungry?  They were not dealing with "head hunger", they thought the band should, they were rushing out for fills and unfills and whatever else to try to make them NOT feel hunger.  Some complained about wanting to eat even after being full.  Craving things that were unhealthy choices, and the biggie NOT wanting to exercise, finding every excuse to NOT move.    

I was right there with them not dealing with my "head hunger" for sure and the excuse thing I did it over and over.  What happened to me?  I regained 75 freaking pounds.

I do not have a cure all ladies and gentleman.  I only have Kristisms I like to call them that I can offer to you.  Believe them or not your choice.

If you got a ticket today on the way to work for speeding, would you go out and break all the rest of the traffic laws the rest of your day?  In other words, so you ate one piece of pizza, this does NOT give you free gratis to eat the whole damn pie - because you have already done damage as some believe.  Instead say "I might as well not" because one slice of pizza is going to have less calories than two or even more.

Don't put your thoughts to what might have been, put your energy into what is possible.

Never treat your body like a garbage disposal for leftovers.

Don't wait to be thin to act thin.  Your life is happening NOW, not 10 pounds from now.

D.A.S. Dress the part, Act the part, Suck it up

Aim for better everyday, not for perfect right away

Lose, maintain, just do not gain

Tea and sympathy, not cake and apathy

Get healthy and fit like it is your career

You need not be perfect, you just have to stick with it

Dream big, step small and keep going

That which I cannot do now is my aspiration, not my defeat

Look at weight gain as a bad haircut, it is temporary and will fix itself with proper care and maintenance

Plateaus only SEEM to last forever, but if you kick and stomp and go at them, they crash to the ground and you can dance in their dirt

Find your inner CAUSE for a higher fitness level, that will be your ROCK

The fact is there is always something you can do if you think out of the box, in fact throw the box away

Don't binge on something just so you do not binge on it later or to get it out of the house

I have lost my weight choice by choice

Remember to fill your life not your stomach

Forget what negative energy drainers say and go the other way

Eat right, NOT LIGHT

Push yourself gently in the right direction, but don't push so hard that you push yourself down

Change your life and you change your weight, not the other way around

To get fat unglued,  eat healthier foods

Food is not suppose to be a source of stress

I would rather lose weight slowly and happily than fast and miserably

You cannot hate yourself and do well by your body

It's not about losing the weight to become the person you want to be; it's becoming the person you want to be to lose weight

It is time to take the deck you are dealt and play with it

Do what you can, or pretty soon you can't do anything

Motivation, Modification, Moderation and Movement will keep you heading in the right direction and keep you there once you have arrived.

Happy Friday Everyone!


vickyd said...

Great post! I've been guilty of many of the things you listed (and still am sometimes) but I'm getting better at it and that's progress!

Jacquie said...

Have I told you lately that I love you! This is a great post K! We have all been there and until we get the brain in the game, ain't no diet/wls gonna help!

FitBy40 said...

Fill your life, not your stomach! I love it! Definitely words to live by.

Lap Band Gal said...

This is THEE best blog post that I have read ANYWHERE in MONTHS. Amen.

Onwards my friend :)

♫ Drazil ♪ said...

Seriously. LOVE this post and LOVE you more.

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Darlin1 said...

Very well said!!!!


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DiZneDiVa said...

Nice post... I enjoyed it.

Ronnie said...

I love this! Words to live by. So many people have that, "Well, already wrecked today's calories so why not keep eating poorly?" mindset. DRIVES ME CRAZY!

Glad to see someone else who truly gets it. :)